To the Moms of the Children with Special Medical Needs

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To the moms of kids with special medical needs, I see you. I see you in this era of COVID trying to hold it all together.

I see your fear while you hug your little one closer and closer every day, as the apprehension of cold and flu season mixed with the unceasing waves of COVID loom above you. I hear your prayers to whatever higher power you believe in, because I say them too. “Please, just let us get through this unharmed.”

I see the doctors appointments you’re avoiding, even though they’re necessary. The virtual visits you’re simultaneously thankful for and tired of, and the hours of phone calls necessary to get them covered by insurance. I see the new normal of your child’s sensory dysregulation, loss of routine, meltdowns, and confusion written all over your face. 

I feel your heart stop with every cough, sneeze, and wheeze. 

I see the panic in your eyes when you hear the person behind you in line at the pharmacy coughing and sniffling. I hear you patiently explain one, two, and three more times why mask wearing, proper sanitation, and not spreading germs is still so important. I watch as you glance at your amazing kid while you’re talking, as if to secretly remind the other person that the life of the tiny human standing next to you matters. I hear your silent cries of frustration because the child you created and love dearly depends on others being careful. 

I see you in the wee hours of the morning, trying desperately to cram in a whole work day because it’s impossible to balance your kiddo’s needs, the lack of childcare, and the demands of your job. I recognize your guilt for showering one moment longer just to have a solitary minute to yourself.

My dear friend, I wish I could give you the relief you so desperately seek.

I wish I could calm the fears in your heart and tell you it will all be OK. 

As your head hits your pillow at the end of the day, I know the tears you will cry. I know the looming depression that is knocking on your door, just waiting for the perfect opportunity to wreak some havoc. I recognize the emergency anti-anxiety medication that has now become even more necessary than it used to be. I know why your eyes glaze over when you think about doing it all again tomorrow, because your heart is just so tired. I feel the guilt of feeling that way, because you’re also so unbelievably thankful that your baby survived another day intact, and you GET to do it again tomorrow. The dichotomy is weighing on your soul.

I understand, precious mama, your worry that this will never truly go away — that you will feel uncertain and fearful forever.

I see you look at your sweet child for one extra second as they fall asleep and wonder if anything will ever feel “the same” again, or if this glimpse of how fleeting life can truly be will become our new normal. How will we ever feel carefree again?

Please, my dear mama, know that you are not alone in spirit even though the weight of your responsibilities is crushing. Remember that you are stronger than you could ever imagine, that when the world makes you walk through fire for your child you don’t balk for a single second. Honor your ability to make beauty from the ashes.

You can do this. 

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